Nothingness...

Great achievement is usually born of great sacrifice, and is never the result of selfishness.

So you have a life, or at least that is how you would like to describe it. Everyone's story (read life) is unique to their personal experiences and journeys here and this one relates to me.

There was me, in my life, once upon a time. I was a somebody and a someone with something.

At work I was the one who listened to others talk. I was the one who knew it all and who understood why things would not work when they should have. I was the one, who was the ever efficient lean-mean-administrative machine, the "never-let-us-down", "give it to her to do" person.

For my business associates, I was the go-getter, the ultimate "come-back" who turned their sympathy into awe.

Back home, amongst family and friends, I was the daughter who sometimes turned mother, the dear friend with a passion for food and shoes. And Chocolates.

And to all others who knew me, and had a chance to know the path I walked down, knew me as a pillar of immense strength, continence and forbearance.

 I had the life many envied - a perfect Job, which I loved and looked forward to every morning, a business that resuscitated successfully and was doing well, and family and friends who were a source of strength and motivation.  I would say, that I was content and happy with all that I had.

Then, why, I ponder, did I cast it all away? Why did I chose to give up everything for nothingness...

I do not know how many of you have experienced this feeling (and trust me I do not hold anything against you if you haven't because you all have your head screwed on the proper way) that there is more. There is more that life has to offer you and there is much more that you can give back to life... That there is still something that you can do do make things better, to make a difference, to "take it up a notch"

 So, as it had been said, "that you can start with nothing and out of nothing and out of no way a way will be made..", I silently and patiently wait, in nothingness, for that way to appear...

Opportunity often comes disguised in the form of misfortune, or temporary defeat

Love's Labor Lost....

I often find myself asking, does "true love" really exist nowadays?

Are there really individuals out there waiting to be wooed by a  knight in shining Armour live "happily ever after".

Well, if there are, then they have probably taken shelter under some rock, because all that you get nowadays are women (and men) in search of some sort of a "convenient" relationship.

I took a long hard look around me and even mastered up the courage to ask some close confidants about what they were looking for in their relationship, and why they were in it in the first place.

The first amazing response i got was that this femme fatal was with her boyfriend, because she was "tired of being lonely and being by herself all the time"... and wouldn't a pet have helped here?

A relationship is a combination of many components -love, intimacy, commitment - yet many of us seem to ignore these essential factors of a relationship and instead selfishly, without considering the other person's emotional quotient, enter into one to fulfill our needs.

Another interesting response i got, was emotional support. In this case the woman usually looks for a man that will validate her in every aspect of her life. She is completely insensitive to the man's needs (or in some cases prior commitments - yes, you nailed it!) but will expect him to be there for her, and by her, every step of the way.

The next, i promise you reader, you will find as interesting as i did, "he completes me". How so, by adding some grey into your matter? This came from a highly successful, well-informed, independent, out-going, well-spoken, well-established (OK, I am out of adjectives, and I am sure you get the point) young woman, who gave up everything she had just to turn into lazy and dependent housewife. Sorry no offense intended, but all this sacrifice only so that they could please the societal demands of not being looked upon as a highly- accomplished-but-doomed-for-failure spinster?

And the last; this got my sides cracking when I first heard it, but as i thought more about it, it rang true, and probably as the most popular reason why women opt out of their romantic fantasies and settle for a more economically gainful relationship. According to some, two incomes are always better than one, and provides the financial stability that one cannot get on their own. Dinners at expensive restaurants, designer clothes, nice set of wheels; who needs love when I have GUCCI in my closet?

I am not sure i want to consider those who are co-dependent on their partners to look after them and clean up the mess they leave in their lives and those of others. Drug addicts, physically abusive and alcoholic personalities are often attracted to reckless individuals as they get to play Mum or Dad, and fulfill their desire of being needed and depended upon.

Relationships of convenience can sometimes turn into  ugly games and can end up being very painful for the other partner, who is probably unaware of the situation at hand. On the other hand, if demands are clear from the onset of the relationship, then it could save a lot of heartache and both parties enjoy being in that relationship.

So, what are you looking for?